Ladies, buckle up because it’s about to get real.

I have felt like a failure my entire life. I think I’ve successfully failed at just about anything I’ve ever tried to achieve. Is that success or failure? A bit of both, I guess. I could make a list that would go on for pages just stating my failures in life, it’s so vast.  In fact, there are even people that if I said this to them in person, they’d make me define failure and tell me I was wrong.  See. Failed again.  

I used to think failure was this terrible thing that brought about shame, guilt and misery; but I guess after some point of seeing and experiencing it so often, my perspective started to change without me even realizing it. 

If failing in a relationship means learning about myself: what I like, don’t like, what I’ve allowed and believed about myself, what still needs healing in me, how to do things more successfully next time, etc…Is being single again so bad? 

If failing at a job means growing, reexamining my priorities, finding my passion in life and searching for a tribe that feels like “mine”…Is a failing career actually terrible?  

If failing at creating a home means minimizing, leaving everything behind, wandering and exploring the world, trying out new cultures and searching for the vibe that resonates most truly with me…Is being homeless such a  tragic thing? 

In my quest to become what I’ve always wanted to be, life has continually taken me where I’m meant to go instead. While reflection shows this process very clearly, often as the devastation hits and my view is focused purely on the parts that are falling apart, I fail to see the opportunities that have actually been gifted to me in order to have and be something greater. In this case, my failure to see is not a failure at all, but a habit that simply needs to be retrained in order to have a clearer perspective of what is really happening throughout this process of life and soul evolution. 

Do you ever do this? Is this a trap you’ve kept yourself caged in? Believing that as you grow and change into something better, it’s somehow a reflection of what you’ve done wrong? A punishment rather than a gift? Starting again at the beginning rather than a major advancement going in the right direction (rather than the misguided direction you were headed toward before)?

The great news is: It’s not too late to see the truth! In fact, it’s never too late. Wherever you are today, this is the perfect time to see and learn that the direction you are being redirected in, the thing that’s coming to an end or shifting is actually an incredible achievement in your life and should be celebrated! Literally, host a party or dinner, take yourself out and do something special just for you…this is an incredible moment and deserves the same special treatment as when you start something new.  

It’s high time we change this perspective on failure.  When failure leads to change and development, resourcefulness, learning, new feelings and emotions, growth, adventure, greater love and empowerment…how in the world can we do anything less than have a party?  

Ladies, I hereby declare that we collectively start the movement to OWN FAILURE. I don’t need to be the only queen out there, I’m happy to share that title with each and every one of you. Stand tall, stand proud and embrace the Queen of Failure within you because I dare to say, that woman is freaking amazing and I’m proud to be one too! 

My fellow Queens, show them all how good you look in that crown and don’t forget to smile when you fall because damn you look good doing it! 

Forever Yours,

Queen Kat